Get Rid of The Chip

seu70You know life is too short to stay mad. I know we get mad but to stay mad, it is just not worth it. We have to learn to let things go. Even when things don’t go your way. You cannot expect people to cater to your every need. That is impossible. Only God can cater to your needs in the most intimate way. Stop putting such a tremendous burden on yourself and others! People are human –they are imperfect beings and they are not gods!!!! LET IT GO… Stop isolating yourself from the world. Stop putting the blame on others. Stop pointing the fingers if you have faults yourself.


That is why we need to humbly admit those things…we live…we learn…we love. We all hurt. Then we move forward…and we find better things. As time passes you learn to appreciate life and the people in it. You even learn to appreciate those that hurt you.
You learn the greatest gift ever…free forgiveness. That doesn’t cost you anything. There is a POWER released when you learn to forgive and move on. The longer you hold on to the he did and she did the longer you extend your pain. You think it is not there but you use it as a shield and a wall of protection. Tear down those walls and allow God to mend your inner self for real. Then you can celebrate YOU in a whole new way. Lose the chip on the shoulder and gain some cheer! There is a life that God wants us to enjoy in Abundance!

image_002Let’s look at the life of Joseph.  In the book of Genesis, Chapter 37, a story is revealed of a young man that had several brothers. The young man, Joseph, already had been given favor from his parents with a coat of many colors. His father also took more time aside to teach Joseph for his future. Then God also gives him favor by revealing to him early on his purpose through the means of two dreams. After all this unfolds, his brothers quickly come to resent him. In the process of time Joseph goes through a difficult experience as his brothers take him, throw him into a pit to leave him for dead, have a comfy meal as they hear the shouts and cries of Joseph, then decide to make a profit of him by selling him to the Egyptians as a slave. After this the brothers return to the father and tell him that Joseph was killed. How heartless that these men could do such a thing to their own brother!

Imagine how Joseph must have felt. He was given a promise, then thrown in a pit, then kept as a prisoner until he finally came to his role as a prince. All this was the process God destined for him to save a nation. We know that this was a painful experience for Joseph. We know that this was a long time for Joseph. But we also know that he came to be used mightily by God in an effort to care for the people in the time that a famine was approaching. God saw the need in advance and used this experience to prepare Joseph in a wealthy kingdom to have control in an order to do this. This is how God does things. He knows the beginning from the end. How else would Joseph get to Egypt? I know we consider this pure cruelty but Joseph had to be separated from his family in order take care of this responsibility.

Over the course of our lives we also experience hardships and painful circumstances. When people that are the closest to us hurt, abandon, betray or wrong us in some way. But God knows that through all the wrong there is a true purpose that will always unfold. We end up helping others. We save lives. We become stronger. We gain an intimate relationship with God and with the people He places in our lives. God is a God of restoration and healing. At the end of the day, Joseph reunites with his brothers, forgives them and cares for his family. They end up joining him in the palace. God’s purpose is fulfilled. Joseph could have had them killed when he saw them, but he chose to forgive and allow them to live in his midst.

Can you forgive the people that hurt you? Or what if we need forgiveness because we have caused hurt towards someone as well? Remember that we are imperfect beings, and we all end up on both sides of the spectrum throughout life. Just know that when we learn to let things go quickly we experience the most exceptional freedom that comes from forgiveness. It really is not worth holding onto past pain. We become prisoners of our own past. We become angry, bitter and isolated. So we may not be like Joseph stuck in a pit but as a comparison we are stuck in the pit of our mind. We don’t grow and we don’t heal when we hold onto pain. That is not what God wants for us. He wants us to experience what true freedom from forgiveness is. Just as He forgave us of all our faults, we need to learn the habit of forgiving others for their faults as well and just move ahead.

Life is short! Let it go! Be free! Lose the chip and gain your cheer back. It took me a long time to experience this as well. I held onto things and wasted so much time. Now when I look back and I see people in a different light of grace. I learn to let go quickly. This is so liberating for me. I never thought that I would ever be free of pain. Today I am. I love it. I have peace in my heart and in my mind. I have learned to forgive. I have learned that I have to let all things go and into the hands of God.

So if you are hurting today, ask God to help you through prayer.

“Dear Lord, help me to let go and forgive all the wrongs that people have done against me. Help me to love just as you loved me first. Help me to see people in the light of Your grace. Help me to understand and see what Your perfect plan and will for my life us. I don’t want to hold on to any hardships that people have caused me or if I have caused that for others. Bring me to a place of complete surrender, submission, serenity and humility. Help me to let go of the chip that causes me pain so I can experience the liberty that You want me know all of my days. Amen and Amen.”

About Christina

Blessings to all that are viewing this. My name is Christina Cruz-Mendez. I am a Senior Pastor at Mission United International Church in Yonkers, NY working along side my husband Juan A. Mendez Jr. Senior Pastor, currently residing in Canton, Georgia. We have been together for 29 years with 2 children that God has blessed us with. Makes us the family of four - "JusChrist4". I have been a Christian and active in ministry for about 22 years now. Through all the rocky and smooth roads in life I am eternally grateful that God has brought me this far in life to share with the world what He is doing in me, through me and for me. View all posts by Christina

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