The Habit of Positive Thinking

Happy Wednesday!!! We are so excited summer is here. We get to spend more creative and innovative ways to enjoy or family, friends & fatherhood. Here are a few things I would like to encourage you all with:

Stay focused. Stay faithful. Stay purposeful and lastly… stay positive. Positive thinking is a habit.

Habit is defined from as:

  • an acquired behavior pattern regularly followed until it has become almost involuntary;
  • customary practice or use;
  • a particular practice, custom or usage;
  • a dominant or regular disposition or tendency; prevailing character or quality;
  • addiction.

Leaning to the positive aspect –we want to create healthy additions.  Healthy habits to improve ourselves in areas so that we can succeed in life.  We can succeed at home, in our relationships, our businesses and even our workplaces.  This positive information I received today from one of my colleagues and I quickly asked if I can “borrow” some of this for my women’s encouragement.

He reminded us with a weekly Positivity Highlight —


When building a habit, it helps to have a conducive environment, repetition/practice, and support from others. But starting any habit begins with a decision, a choice, a commitment to yourself.

Thankfully, we’ve helped each other develop our own positive-thinking habits right here! We may not express it out loud all the time, but we share positivity to support each other in several ways.

For us believers, it can be through our testimonies, scriptures, passages, quotes, appreciations, music, exercising and encouraging one another, studying together, sharing our successes and challenges, surprise birthday celebrations, time for holidays, special acknowledgements, listening to each other, and the list goes on.

What we practice becomes more permanent, so take every opportunity to practice gratitude, mindfulness, and positive thinking. It also helps us to create more deeper & meaningful relationships. Let’s honor and value the ones God gave us in every way.

“Therefore encourage one another and build each other up,
just as in fact you are doing.”

1 Thessalonians 5:11

So let’s make this a new habit for ourselves.  Let’s throw around the positivity like confetti.  We are in a new season.

Happy summer! As we continue to fight & come out of this pandemic! We are making the most of a whole new way of being with our thinking and living wholeheartedly. Enjoy today and enjoy this start to better weather. We all need it. ❤


With love,
Cruz-Mendez Chris

Father’s Day Reflections

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Life flows through honor.  This is a principle of acknowledging who people are that will position us to give them what they deserve and to receive the gift of who they are in our lives. It is being intentional with those placed over us in any capacity. Biological & spiritual.  This moment we are honoring the father’s…. 

I reached out to a few people for this celebratory day and asked the following: 

What are some of the things you love about your dad?

Here are the anonymous responses:

“He is a funny guy— has a sense of humor. I love his strength.  He goes hard for you, when he rocks with you he gives you 100. Even not being with mom, he always supported.”

“His giving heart.”

“I love his dedication to his family and work ethics.”

“He’s the most understanding person I know; big faith. And he knows when to take the lead but understands the importance of submission.”

“I can approach my dad as both my father and best friend. He has a good balance (for the most part) of when to be funny stupid & silly and when to be serious.”

“Selfless sacrifice, Always dependable; Responsible; Loving; Trustworthy; Committed; Man of his word. Those are some of the reasons why I love my dad. 🙂 “

“He’s cute, funny, caring, loving, a tough guy who will stand his ground with anyone and he’s still my protector. I’m such a daddy’s girl and he never tells me “no” lol. I still have him wrapped around my finger. He genuinely loves his kids and grand kids. He’s really good to my kids and loves them very much.”

“How funny he is; how he sings randomly. How he always speaks of God. How he cooks.”

“My dad is such a supportive person. Whenever I need him, he literally drops and will stop and runs to my rescue.”

“The way he always makes me feel safe like anything I ever do he will help me through and he has shown me how I would want my future kids dad to love act and treat me and my children.”


“His faith in me, how he’s never given up on me. His wisdom, our relationship that we have is very rare. I can talk to him about anything. I can even see him like a friend, a bro. He has given me opportunities of all the things he couldn’t have when he was my age. He is a very genuine person, good mix, honest, good balance, understanding. He doesn’t sugarcoat… appreciate his candidness. He is a softie at heart but doesn’t show it to all.”

“Love his influence on others. Love that he is very self motivated and consistent. When he has his eye on the prize he goes for it, I admire his resilience. How he always bounced back. Through different things he has faced. He always goes out his way to provide for us. Even if there was lack I never felt it. He never made us feel that. Every time he talks it’s something new, he is very outspoken he never sugarcoats anything, he is a good friend. He is very loyal… he is true to his word he doesn’t flake.

Past Tense:
“Sense of Humor.  He loved to feed people; Carpentry skills, his trade; Love for football… SENSE OF HUMOR!” Sibling 1
“I loved his sense of humor too. Loved that he loved me in his own way. He protected my faith. When I had him near he was very honest with me about me. Other things, he purposely kept from me to protect me. I understand that more now as I have grown.” Sibling 2

“The righteous man walks in his integrity;
His children are blessed after him.”

Proverbs 20:7 NKJV

Happy Father’s Day to all the wonderful Dads! 

Your Something Is Significant

You don’t know until you try right!

Praise Be To God! It was very nice to have my dear friend Mary John finally take an opportunity and share her testimony on the group of MUI Women through FB.

We need to all step out and do that –for you don’t realize how impactful you can truly be to another life.

We stay silent most days for many reasons…

1) I don’t have time.

2) I don’t think I sound as good as this one or that one.

3) Is this even really relevant.

4) Do I make sense?

5) Other people sharing — I don’t need to.

Here are my responses to that below:

1) YES make time!

2) You sound as good as God made you to be –everyone is unique and expresses differently; so be you in your own skin.

3) IT IS RELEVANT! You are relevant! Your story is relevant and what you have to share definitely is.

4) Maybe it won’t make sense to EVERYONE but here’s the thing… it makes sense to YOU… it makes sense to GOD and it will make sense to the person(s) that the message is actually for.

5) Yes other people are sharing but they are not YOU! Just like Kristen Rabadi said on her post for Monday –she would hold back thinking it is not important or this and that. Yet the moment she did yield to her specific call, it came out powerful.

That my friends is what makes the difference.

Just do it! Yeah you may fall, flake or feel funny –but rest assured it is touching and helping another life because you are being your best, authentic, transparent self OK!

So please –use these platforms to SHARE YOUR STORY! We need to hear it. Whether it be about kids, work life, marriage, singles, waiting, health topics –you can share something! And your something is truly significant when you just say YES! I WILL DO! Let me yield to being ME! Because that’s awesome. You are awesome. God doesn’t create anything less.

Stay encouraged dear sister and share. Yesterday’s message by MJ and Sunday’s message by Kristen were really insightful messages for us to take from. We learn through their stories. As painful as some of it is –there you always find purpose in pain.

Keep soaring. Keep flying and keep growing to what God has YOU for. It’s amazing… worst case scenario really is “What if I do nothing!” Best case scenario is –your something is significant!

Love you all — see you later on Women’s Wednesday <3. 8:00 PM every week.

Follow thru

Challenges & Successes

fitsum-admasu-oGv9xIl7DkY-unsplashThe challenges and successes of life need to be looked at with a right perspective because both will produce the same reward — RESULTS.

We never think that challenges –adversity –trials –tribulation –pain –anguish — storms and hardships will take us anywhere.  But in actuality, it does.  It helps push you to move further.

Everyone has challenges!  We need them! Jesus needed them… and we gain valuable insight, hindsight and foresight when we push through.



I am in this weight loss “challenge” group and it is work to put in. I am actually gaining more weight! UGH! But I am also gaining consistency.  I am my own competition. I am my own biggest challenge.

However, I looked at May compared to June in my Apple Watch Activity app and I am already passed the bar!  I had only 3 complete workouts for May.  Now we are only at June 10th and I’ve had 7 complete workouts so far! PROGRESS! Yay me!

Now I just tame the food as I have been doing for the month so far cutting out marshmallows, muffins and all other munchies that I just love! Pure madness! But I know I am going to see a great reward eventually.

My goal is not July.  My goal is not this summer or the next.  My goal is to BE CONSISTENT.  That is my challenge that I know will ultimately lead to my success.

So whatever you are facing today –I hope that you go through strong and valiantly.  This teaches us so many things and not just the natural things on health…but looking at the spiritual component.  To condition ourselves to be consecrated and dedicated enough in our spending time with God.

For it is in the challenges of life where we will learn so much.  In the challenge is where we respond to God.  It is where we process and make deliberate decisions.  It is the repository from which our future is shaped.  We determine what our non-negotiable criteria will be!

In the book Sifting — by Wayne Cordeiro he states, “The single best thing you can do during a time of sifting is to give yourself to the process and let God’s work run its course!”

Give yourself to the process of sifting, of challenges and of transition and change!

On the other side of this will be our harvest! Keep going! Keep growing! You’re reward is there!

Stay encouraged because our challenges and successes make you an extraordinary and exceptional person. ❤

The desert and the parched land will be glad;
    the wilderness will rejoice and blossom.
Like the crocus, it will burst into bloom;
    it will rejoice greatly and shout for joy.
The glory of Lebanon will be given to it,
    the splendor of Carmel and Sharon;
they will see the glory of the Lord,
    the splendor of our God.
Isaiah 35: 1-2 NIV

With Love,