My Darling Daughter


I started an online bible plan today titled, “Beauty Marks” from a mobile app. It shares, “What makes a woman beautiful. To be unbeautiful is demeaning our value as women and as God’s creation. We redeem what beauty really is and learn the kind of beauty that glorifies God.”

What a constant thought for many.

I’m considering this young woman. She was dark, different and devalued. She would not think of herself as beautiful among thousands.

What makes her stand out above the rest?

What makes her matter?

What makes her even considered?

She looks for this one named Solomon. A king, a leader, a lover and a state of art type of man in those days. He had thousands of choice women. What makes her any different. What makes her feel loved? What makes her feel important? What makes her feel beautiful? What makes her remembered?

“Like a Lily among thorns is my darling among the young women.”
Song of Songs 1:8 (New International Version)

“You are altogether beautiful, my darling; there is no flaw in you.”
Song of Songs 4:7 (New International Version)

We think this is some exotic tale in the bible. Why was it included? It shares such intimate detail of a relationship between one man and one woman. The explicit detail is written out for our learning. They were not ashamed to openly express how they felt. Yet even then…did she feel like she even mattered?

She went running out searching for this one…in the night watches. Only to be torn up by other ravenous men. In her search for this one—it seems like she never really had him. But there was certainly One that had her all along.

I reflect a lot on matters of the heart as a woman. I found this saying,
“Be Your Own Kind of Beautiful.” I kept it on my phone screensaver to remind myself. I am beautiful because God says that I am. He loves me. He sees me among many. He is mindful of me so much so that His love runs over for me.

He says in His Word, “Since you are precious and honored in My sight, and because I love you, I will give people in exchange for you, nations in exchange for your life.”
Isaiah 43:4 (New International Version)

Wow! That sounds to me like a whole lot of love and a whole lot of beautiful.

That is how much He is in love with us!

He is always giving things in exchange for us. The same way He gave us His Son as a ransom for all people [1 Timothy 2:6].

God gave us something as a sure seal to settle those thoughts—”Do I matter?” “Am I beautiful?” He gave us His Son because of His great love for us. Exchanging beautiful for beautiful. For all of Him was stripped so that He gave us it all. He was letting us know how much we mattered.

“He grew up before Him like a tender shoot, and like a root out of dry ground. He had NO beauty or majesty to attract us to Him, nothing in His appearance that we should desire Him. He was despised and rejected by mankind, a Man of suffering, and familiar with pain. Like one from whom people hide their faces He was despised, and we held him in low esteem. Surely He took up our pain and bore our suffering, yet we considered Him punished by God, stricken by Him and afflicted.”
Isaiah 53:2-4 (New International Version)

This was the utmost act of beauty. When we think that we have been despised, rejected and afflicted. We feel the ugliness of the world, and the weight of trials hit us. Imagine how much more that Jesus felt as He gave His life for us to be made whole in every way.

That’s beauty.

Beautiful is having beauty; possessing qualities that give great pleasure or satisfaction to see, hear, think about, etc.; delighting the senses or mind; excellent of its kind. So to God, when He thinks of you—this tells you, that you are in fact very beautiful. It is not about looks—it is about qualities, pleasure, satisfaction and delight, just at the THOUGHT OF YOU!!! That is what God thinks of you, my beautiful friend.

I know everyone wants to hear those words—”You Are Beautiful!”

Don’t grow discouraged for what you have experienced in the past. That doesn’t define you or provide you a measure of what is beautiful. I know that can be a constant agony…much like this young woman in Song of Songs. We find ourselves in this story, searching for an endless love. Searching to be seen, recognized, honored and cherished. Know that God does all of that and beyond for you–more than any man could have the capacity to fulfill.

Darling Daughter of Mine, you are your own kind of beautiful. You are unique, valued and special in every way. You have always been beautiful to Me.
Think on that.



About Christina

Blessings to all that are viewing this. My name is Christina Cruz-Mendez. I am a Senior Pastor at Mission United International Church in Yonkers, NY working along side my husband Juan A. Mendez Jr. Senior Pastor, currently residing in Canton, Georgia. We have been together for 29 years with 2 children that God has blessed us with. Makes us the family of four - "JusChrist4". I have been a Christian and active in ministry for about 22 years now. Through all the rocky and smooth roads in life I am eternally grateful that God has brought me this far in life to share with the world what He is doing in me, through me and for me. View all posts by Christina

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