That’s the mystery… How can two agree? Who likes to argue? How can we get in agreement as the Word says in Amos 3:3, “Can two walk together unless they are agreed?”
An agreement isharmony or accordance in opinion or feeling; a position or result of agreeing; the absence of incompatibility between two things; consistency.
I am certainly not an expert but I can look to the scriptures for guidance on how important is the power of unity for us all. Else, there really is no way that one, two or more can walk in a concordant peace.We see this a lot in households, marriages, among children, family members, work places and even in our churches. How can we get in accordance of opinion or feeling? How can we become consistent at being a peacemaker that the bible tells us to be. We’d be blessed if we did seek peace.
As for me, I don’t want to argue. I want to agree. I want to abide in this peace, unity and harmony. It is frustrating to argue all the time. It is stressful and exhausting. Why the fight? Is it really worth it? When will the one back down or come to the place where they desire peace. In building any good character within us we should have a desire that wants to be at peace. In fact as a believer in Christ, it should feel immensely uncomfortable to spend any time in discord and disunity.
The bible outlines a direction for us to take when it we encounter the lack of harmony.
“Blessed are the peacemakers, For they shall be called sons of God.”
“Let him turn away from evil and do good; Let him seek peace and pursue it.”
~1 Peter 3:11
“Be of the same mind toward one another. Do not set your mind on high things, but associate with the humble. Do not be wise in your own opinion.”
“He who is slow to wrath has great understanding, But he who is impulsive exalts folly.”
“A wrathful man stirs up strife, But he who is slow to anger allays contention.”
Now I am sure that when we first read these we quickly think of the one on the other side and not self. “Yeah! They are angry!” But what about our character and conduct. Are we using it to bring the peace and calm the stormy one. A lot of times, we love to get the last word in. We want to always be right. We want to be the one that everyone needs to follow but there are going to be cases where we disagree. We just need one person to get in agreement with us and we will feel better.
What if we are wrong all together? How do we settle issues and become masters at problem solving.
- Prayer and Fasting
- Study of the Word
- Professional Counseling
- Pastoral Counseling
All those are options for us to move in a better direction. Sometimes we just need to have someone get in agreement with us through prayer.
“Again I say to you that if two of you agree on earth concerning anything that they ask, it will be done for them by My Father in heaven.”
We need to get in agreement. First with God through His word, with self and with others. For all the counsel we need first is given through us as a guide through the scriptures. There is nothing new under the sun. In this life we have to master agreement. We have to master unity. Whatever I have to do to get us at peace –let us try that. Even if it means taking time off from the issue until people cool down.
Apostle Paul became so heated with one of his travelers (Mark) that they had to part ways for a season. They had such a sharp disagreement that they parted their ways Acts 15:39]. Later we see in the epistles he is addressing him again and even mentions that he is helpful [2 Timothy 4:11]. Perhaps taking that time to refresh is something that can always be beneficial for all parties. Why continue in heated discussions and uncomfortable atmospheres? We must seek the peace! Peace for ourselves, peace with others, peace at home, peace in the marriage, peace among friends, peace at the church…we have to KEEP SEEKING THE PEACE! That is the fruit. The good fruit that we need to bear forth evidence of.
I say then: Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh. For the flesh lusts against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh; and these are contrary to one another, so that you do not do the things that you wish. But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the law. Now the works of the flesh are evident, which are: adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lewdness, idolatry, sorcery, hatred, contentions, jealousies, outbursts of wrath, selfish ambitions, dissensions, heresies, envy, murders, drunkenness, revelries, and the like; of which I tell you beforehand, just as I also told you in time past, that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God. But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law.
Often times, people ask well how did you do it? 23 years married, 40 years of varied issues and THERE IS SO MUCH MORE for me to learn.
I sought peace.
I sought God through prayer.
I sought through the scriptures for my particular situations.
I sought godly counsel both professional and pastoral.
And there very well may be issues that lie ahead for me. But I have to plan to overcome them. There will always be moments to make that peace. We just can’t lose opportunity and waste the time by handing it over to the devil as he parades around in joy that there is disunity. The devil loves to rob us from all that precious time.
Let’s fight the real attack and from where it is coming from…by being sharp and on guard. It’s not worth losing battles every day. We can win them. What you will gain is a sound mind, a healthy relationship, life-long friendships, a peaceful atmosphere, a powerful ministry and a stable environment.
In the power of agreement and unity there will always be growth. Just find the way to get in agreement with God so that you can get in agreement with the rest. End the war.